‘A promotion to a role I had been working toward for a long time.’
Marianna Bezler, Engineering, OpenAI
You have done well by every measure that used to matter. People rely on you, you are good at what you do, and from the outside nothing needs to change.
And yet something has shifted. Perhaps it is a push from outside: a restructuring, a colleague’s farewell post, a promotion that went to someone else. Perhaps it is a pull from inside, a sense that the chapter you built is coming to an end while the next one has not yet taken shape.
You are not in crisis. You are just not quite okay either.
Is this it? Do I stay, step up, or step out?
This is one of the hardest decisions a senior leader makes. Everyone you could ask has a stake in the answer, and while the thinking happens in your head, the fear lives in your body. So the question goes back under the carpet, and it keeps coming back.
I have sat on both sides of this decision.
The number on the table was very big, one of the largest mandates I had worked on, and I realised I did not care any longer. Another sale would not change anything. The passion was gone, and I knew I was done with that chapter.
That was after fourteen years in investment banking across four countries, leading business development for Scandinavia and advising high net worth clients. I had been asking myself is this it? for years, and everyone I could have asked had a stake in the answer.
What I needed then was someone with no stake in it, who could help me decide and then plan the move well. That is the work I do now.
Staying becomes a choice rather than a default, and the role feels like home again.
The bigger role, inside your company or elsewhere, without overdelivering to get there.
Leaving well, now or in five to ten years, with your numbers, your family’s security and your next chapter mapped.
There is no right answer built into this work. What my clients have in common is that they chose.
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Learn moreEight steps over six sessions to decide whether to stay, step up or step out, and take your first steps.
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Promoted to VP within six months, with €75K more in total compensation. Stopped working weekends.
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